“Obedient children, may not be able to become”, please don’t train children too obedient
The best characteristic of a newborn baby is cute, a child before the age of 1, simple purpose, no so-called resistance.
At this time, the parents have the urgent patience and love to take care of them, and then the children gradually grow up, about the arrival of 1 ~ 2 years old, simple care into education and care synchronous, there is a problem, the child is not obey the parents.
When parents lose confidence in their children’s education, they will even beat and scold their children, and the children will become extremely obedient because of fear.
This will directly lead to the children in the future encounter difficulties to overcome obstacles, blind obedience, can not hear their own heart the most authentic voice, and even let the child live a depressed life.
As parents, if their children are obedient, they are happy to think that they are good children and promising children. They are not as troublesome as naughty children, but in fact, what parents do not know is that disobedient children are nature, is the true individual beings as human beings.
A submissive child may not necessarily be mediocre; A child who is not submissive must have an active mind and a certain intelligence. So, the child we want or the child we need to raise is not a puppet who is obedient and manipulative, we need a person who can think for himself, who knows his responsibilities, and who has a strong heart.
First, please give the child free thinking space, please tolerate his bold attempts, moderate mistakes. Best of all, free range but don’t overindulge. Children can run, can fall, but fall to know their own climb up, parents to give children appropriate and reasonable advice, rather than block the pace of children running.
Second, there is a wise way to see through it without talking about it. Small children are also our miniature version. Some so-called disobedient and disruptive in the eyes of parents are just her exploration of the world. When we see children trying something, our job is to support them.
Third, when a child is born, every parent may think that their child is a genius. Later, when the child goes to kindergarten and primary school, he will feel that he cannot go to 211 or 985 in the future. Later, he reluctantly accepts that he can go to an ordinary university. Finally, he may find a job to support himself.
Look at the change of mind, the acceptance of the appointment, how much disappointment is implied in it.
In fact, whether inspirational to do a gold or a grain of sand, whether he is a mathematician or a scholar, for children this is a great existence. As the song says, anyone who has a dream is great, but the dream is not customized, there is no regulation of what is specific. Water and fertilize your child’s dreams instead of knocking them down with your own rude ideas
A Writer once said, “Only when children are finally respected, recognized and supported can they inspire their inner creativity, drive and perseverance.”
If all three are combined, will your child be less good?
Fourth, do not compare, do not always take other people’s children to compare their own children. Every child is unique, the parents are unique, the child is unique.
Whether a parent hits a child, or scolds a child, or even if the child is crying, they still reach out for mom and Dad to hold them, are still quick to forgive their parents, or love them the most.
Why is that? Because parents for children, is the only, is irreplaceable. That as parents why do we always take other people’s children, to criticize their own baby?
Finally, I hope that every child can grow up freely and become successful in an environment of love. May every parent know advance and retreat and understand the needs of children. Only in this way can children have all the beauty in the world!
