Don’t envy other people’s children, do a let other people’s children envy parents

A lot of times, as parents, we ask our children how to be, how to do the best, how to learn the best… They forget that parents are their children’s best teachers, as well as their growing up admirers and learning objects.

Perhaps parents have heard their children say that the mother of a student is very gentle, and heard their children say that the father of a student is very patient. If you think about it, is it like a parent saying whose child is getting the first grade again, whose child is learning new skills and so on, comparisons are everywhere.

When we praise other people’s children, can we change the way to let other people’s children in front of our own children, praise us? When we let our children learn from other people’s children, can’t we start by being a parent?

Most of the time, the parents’ vision and education style, determine the children’s vision and achievement.

How important is a parent’s vision?

First, look at the moment.

In this era of the prevalence of electronic products, is to spoil the children, only for a moment of quiet parents, children to electronic products, or parents also lose the mobile phone, take the children travel book, grow up together, progress together.

Before going to the bookstore, there are children’s learning area in the bookstore, some parents take books to children, while playing mobile phones, children will from time to time to take a look at the parents of the mobile phone, the heart is confused, the book can not see;

And some parents, even geese, geese, geese, Qu Xiang song such as simple poetry, also accompany their children to read together, learn together, let the child feel the atmosphere and attitude of learning, the child will put forward their own questions, draw examples from one another.

One hour of study is worth two hours of study by a child alone.

Second, look at the future.

Future children, will certainly experience a lot of things, whether bumpy or flat, are children’s life must accept, at this time the vision of the parents is very important. When children are under their parents’ noses, they are perfectly safe.

Parents are not willing to let their children experience anything. They would rather die of exhaustion than let their children contact, try, create and develop dependence when it is safe. They are not willing to think and learn on their own initiative.

Where the vision of parents, will not be confined to the present small setbacks and difficulties, let the child in absolute safety conditions, to experience, to accept failure, and then learn from the failure and experience, and then grow up. During this process, the child may feel uncomfortable and want to give up.

But parents at this time a little hard, do not interfere too much, only to do a guide identity, guide children to think, to find the problem. Solve problems, let children develop the habit of solving problems, after the society is also to take the initiative to solve problems, rather than be solved by problems.

Finally, the parenting style.

If the way is right, it will be the parents of others in the child’s mouth. If the way is wrong, it will be the “bear parents” in the child’s eyes.

Before I saw a netizen father in a cute baby mother blogger comments below: why her children are very outgoing, lively, and strangers do not hesitate to exchange, the pattern is very big? But his own children’s pattern is not open, the holiday will have a plan to take the child out to travel, whether it is around, out of the province or abroad, with the child has been, the child speak and work or submissive, and strangers can not communicate.

When the father says that the children of other families are good, if the children see the way of education of others, they will envy others to have a good parent. Taking children out to travel is not “homework”, finish the line, no matter right or wrong, do not summarize the rule. Now the children do not have to deliberately to cultivate what pattern, the so-called pattern, is just a box, the children in the box.

Pattern is not the end, but education is certainly the end.

Children do not like to communicate with others, you can ask them to buy tickets by themselves, but not force them, but encourage them to do things by themselves, to communicate with themselves, so that children have a sense of accomplishment, communication with strangers is not so difficult, have a sense of achievement.

The feelings between people are mutual, how parents love their children, children will use their own way to learn, to love their parents. So, while praising other people’s children, first do a person’s children’s eyes of parents, to give children a good example.