In this life, should we put our career first or our family first? This question is deeply troubling to many people.
Whether in TV dramas or in real life, we often see that many people are successful in their careers and are devoted to their work, however, in running their families, they fail somewhat, and even get along with their children seems to be difficult.
In the traditional family in the past, men and women have a clear division of labor, men are responsible for making money to support the family, women are responsible for raising children, not so high divorce rate, not so many parents and children do not get along well.
With the change of modern society, that kind of division of labor seems to be unsuitable, especially in the city.
With the promotion of gender equality and the pressure of work and life, parents have to come out to earn money to support the family and share it together, and have less time to spend with their children.
Parents so hard work, but the children do not appreciate?
Many parents work very hard in their careers for the sake of the family and the children, often leaving early and returning late. However, in the end, they find that they are not understood by their children, and sometimes they feel so ignorant.
Why does this happen? Because when children are growing up, what they need more than anything is their parents’ attentive companionship.
When children need their parents’ companionship and spiritual satisfaction, they do not see their parents’ figures, and sometimes they only hold the cold banknotes that their parents dumped in their hands.
The child’s soul is lost, and there is no place to talk about it!
The growth process of the mind is also the process of cognition of the world, parents are everything that children rely on, but also is the example of children to learn.
Who is to blame if the child is not taught?
In the process of growing up, parents want their children to be self-disciplined and want them to know everything quickly so that they can worry less.
However, many times I wonder, I have been disciplining my children, doing wrong or disobedient, I will also hit and scold, but it seems that the same mistakes will be made again, or even worse.
Why is this? Because parents themselves, as role models for their children, do not do what they ask of their children. Isn’t it sad that the parents themselves have no self-discipline, yet they ask their children to have self-discipline?
They ask their children to watch less TV, but they are in tears; they ask their children to play less cell phones, but they are playing and forgetting to eat; they ask their children to be hygienic, but they can’t do it, and they rightly say: don’t follow me!
In the young minds of children, parents are supreme, sacred and majestic. They have no more objects to imitate, so they will naturally learn all the words and behaviors of their parents’ approach to things, and digest them in their entirety.
Parents who do not observe the principles of self-discipline themselves will only become the opposite; parents who know how to live a well-ordered life with self-discipline, self-control and self-respect will be taken for granted by their children.
Parents should not be stingy with their love for their children.
To be loved is a blessing, and to love is an ability. The most initial love is the love of parents.
Even if the family is poor and cannot give the child more materially, but as long as there is love, it is still possible to raise children who know how to discipline themselves.
Even if the family is rich, can meet all the material needs of the child, but only not to the child’s heart love, still can raise a reckless, naughty children.
Many parents will say, “I give my child material satisfaction is also love for my child.
First of all, that love is only what you think it is, not what your child needs; sometimes it is like what we ask of lovers now, love is when you are there for me when I need you.
We understand very well that if we truly love something, we will spend time and energy on it, just as we do with our children.
So it is with raising children! If you spend little time with your children, you will not be able to gain insight into their needs and find the right way to teach them.
The love of parents determines the strengths and weaknesses of homeschooling. A loving homeschool brings luck; a lack of love can only lead to misfortune.
As a parent, you must remember that how much you invest in your children when they are growing up is how much you will reap when they become adults.
Parents are the standard and role model of their children’s life. He will reap love and happiness from you, and he will return the same to you in the future.
A child’s spiritual health is 10,000 times more important than good studies!
Children who grow up under the right care of their parents have healthy and sound minds, and when they encounter anything, they will think, regulate and solve it in the right way.
The knowledge that their parents love them when their opinions conflict with their parents, even if they think they are wrong.
The recognition of their own value, self-esteem, self-love and self-confidence, is the basis of self-discipline, the basic of mental health, and the capital to walk a good life reason to reassure their parents, which together directly stems from their parents’ love.
Children in the growth stage, the most important need is the love and companionship of parents, do not let the bill to exercise these rights and obligations for you. Only when you reap the love of your parents as a child, you will not grow up to be insecure about the world.
Children fear abandonment of any kind. Many parents understand this and will often say to their children: Baby, mommy and daddy love you very much and will never leave you.
Many other parents, lacking scientific knowledge, trying to save time, impatient, often say to their children when they don’t listen: If you don’t listen again, I don’t want you!
In this way, in the child’s young mind, will be buried in the shadow of fear, will be full of insecurity about the world.
Now many companies recruiting, prefer to recruit a graduate who has just entered society, because for society for work, he is a blank sheet of paper, easier to instill the concept, easier to give and receive.
The same is true for a child’s education, his lack of confidence, his insecurity, all his unhealthy psychology, may change with constant experience, and new perceptions of the world, but it will be very hard.
This difficulty, not only for the child, but even for the parents.
So, when a child is growing up in a stage where he or she is still a blank sheet of paper, parents put more effort into education and nurturing, which will have twice the effect with half the effort.
Childhood parental love, the right family education, is the most valuable source of capital for a person to deal with society comfortably and walk a good path in life!
In the growth stage of children, parents should still give more accompaniment, heart and soul to grow with him, do not “neglect “
