Unhappy childhood, so many children lose self, parents are not enough to wake up?

Every child wants to have a relaxed and happy childhood. They want to play with their friends freely after school, sleep in on Sunday, and watch a TV play without pressure. But with the development of society, parents agree that they should cultivate their children’s ability from an early age to keep up with the pace of The Times. So for as long as a child can remember, their life has revolved around learning, and as a result, their childhood is nothing but fear and unhappiness about learning.

Mary began planning her daughter Susan’s future before she was even born. She wrote down everything she was supposed to learn from kindergarten to elementary school and followed the plan from the moment her daughter was born.

In eight months, I began to let Susan know Chinese characters and put stickers on the walls of my house. After that, I gradually asked Susan to recite ancient poetry. Susan was also very good and had a good memory.

When Susan was four years old, Mary found her daughter very quiet. She did not talk or go out to play with her friends. Instead, she sat in her room and read by herself.

Susan’s behavior made Mary wonder if her plan had deprived her daughter of a happy childhood. Why should I put so much pressure on my daughter when I played every day when I was young and now I have grown up well? After that, Mary no longer occupied Susan’s time, let her play and make friends, but to Mary’s surprise, Susan’s grades did not drop but remained in the top several.

Happy childhood is a child’s basic right, and now they recall only endless pain. In fact, excessive pressure will cause great problems in the growth of children, so how to change this situation requires parents to make certain actions.

What impact does an unhappy childhood have on a child?

personality

Defects in the family of origin, social interaction, and school environment may be the causes of childhood unhappiness. These factors will lead to their childhood life in the depression, unable to release their nature, most of the time can only hide their thoughts and emotions in the heart, as time goes by, the personality will be greatly changed.

Three views

Whether a child can go through life smoothly depends largely on their three views. If a child has an unhappy childhood, he or she will do what he or she wants regardless of what he or she wants to do when he or she grows up, in order to make up for the lost beauty in childhood, and will become extreme and crazy, so the three views will also change.

Physical factor

Children’s living environment is very important, and parents are the people around at any time, in the case of children can not judge right and wrong, parents’ behavior is the only standard for their learning. For example: parents have been smoking and drinking, but the children do not understand the harm brought by these things, will produce the wrong direction, even when they grow up to touch it also think it is natural.

What changes should parents make?

Lower your expectations for your children

Social competition pressure, and each child’s talent and ability are different, parents in order to let their children can have a good future can only use good spare time, improve their children’s learning knowledge. Although the parents’ original intention is good, but for a long time, the children will lose themselves, under the bondage of family affection more and more pressure, only blindly catering, like a puppet, lose the vitality of childhood. Therefore, parents should give children the freedom of childhood time, let them explore different things, but also conducive to the development of the brain, thinking can be flexible use, learning will be more convenient.

Give children a relaxed education environment

Childhood is an ignorant period, many parents become very anxious because of their children’s shallow knowledge and ability. Therefore, there are infinite urging and criticism around them every day, and their children’s heart is tense, but they cannot focus on learning new things, which becomes more boring. So parents should learn to adjust their own mentality, calm down to think about the problem, take the initiative to release the nature of the child, work and rest, let the child grow up in a relaxed and happy childhood environment.

Children’s eyes are the most beautiful, they have hidden in their eyes the sea of stars, it is a dream, is a beautiful imagination of the future. Therefore, parents should maintain their children’s childhood, so that they have a loving, relaxed and happy growth environment.