“I have held the baby and I have experience”, nurse holds the baby first, family members fight with each other

When a baby is born and cries are heard throughout the delivery room, it means that there is a new life in the world and a new inheritance in a family. At this moment, everyone is happy, especially when the medical staff went out to report the good news to the family members, outside the delivery room to hear the good news is even more excited and happy.

And when the baby was carried out of the delivery room, the nurse’s every step, seems to be “impatient” eyes followed by the family, as if an angel holding another angel coming to people. As a dad or grandparents, everyone wants to hold the baby first, but the nurse can only hand the baby to one person.

The excited family members began to fight among themselves. The elderly wanted to be the first to hold their grandchildren with the idea of “I have held children and I have experience”, while the father refused to give in with the idea of “It is my son/daughter so I should hold first”. The baby was so popular.

Nurses have seen it all too often. It’s only natural to love a child. As a new member of the family, the more popular the baby is, the better off it will be, or at least grow up in a loving environment. The nurse was amused and relieved to see the outstretched hands.

At this time, the mother may not be out of the delivery room, and most nurses tend to give the newborn baby to the father first, considering the father’s closer relationship with the child. This makes the next grandparents, grandparents are very “eye heat”, also worry about what experience of the father is not good baby, can only carefully pay attention to.

Of course, there are also some too “excited” old people, see the nurse ready to put the baby into the father’s arms, “rushed” to take the baby one step ahead of the baby, or let other relatives in the past to hold the child, but not to let the baby’s closest father to the first to hold the baby.

It does seem unreasonable, but they also said they had their own considerations. What the old people call consideration is just believing some superstitions, such as “the baby will look like the first person to hold her, both in appearance and intelligence”, so who holds the baby first is particularly important.

Therefore, after consultation, grandparents and grandparents often choose the most outstanding and excellent person among relatives and friends to hold the baby first, hoping that the child can be blessed and have as much success as that person in the future. In other words, if the father is not good enough, he is definitely not the first choice in the eyes of the elderly.

Such superstitious claims, however, have no scientific basis at all, and even if they were true, families would have no way of deciding who would hold the baby first. Because the newborn baby in the delivery room had already been held by the doctors and nurses, but also the nurse took the baby out of the delivery room.

Therefore, from ancient times to now, the first contact with the baby, must not be the family can designate the person, about the child “first embrace” do not take seriously, this has nothing to do with the child’s future fate. As a result, the older generation doesn’t have to worry about who gets to hold the baby first, and the place is already taken.

But that doesn’t mean a nurse can hand a newborn over to anyone. Even if the immediate family doesn’t mind a friend or relative holding the baby, the nurse will focus on selecting someone who can handle the job, because some people are not fit to handle a baby, let alone want to hold a baby.

Who’s not allowed to hold a baby? There are mainly the following categories.

① A person who is ill

The birth of a child is a great event. In some places, there is still a saying of “rejoicing”, so there are many relatives and friends who come to the hospital to see the child. They want to see their children partly because they really want to see them and partly because they want to feel “smug” and get better as soon as possible.

But such a person should never touch the baby, adults may be indifferent, but for the baby’s influence is very big. In particular, it will affect the health of the baby. Because the newborn’s resistance is often very weak, the virus is very easy to invade the child’s body through close contact with the sick person.

Then the baby is more likely to catch a disease, it could be a small cough, it could be a fever, it could hurt the body anyway. How can parents let sick people have access to their babies when they think their children are born infected with the virus? Keeping children safe from the virus is the right thing to do.

② Someone who can’t hold a baby

This person can touch the child, but cannot hold the child alone. Holding a child is difficult to say simple is not simple, some of the older generation is correct, for example: holding a child is really more hold more experience. So if it’s someone who hasn’t held a baby much before, they basically don’t know how to hold a baby properly.

If you don’t know how to hold the baby correctly, first of all, you can’t guarantee the safety of the baby, and secondly, you can’t guarantee that the baby is comfortable when being held by them. Therefore, we should avoid people who can’t hold children holding children alone, let them not be the first to hold children, even if the father, who has not practiced holding children can not be the first to hold.

③ People with pungent smells and loud voices

Perfume, wine, smoke and so on are more stimulating taste, for some normal people and can not stand this kind of smell, then the baby will not like the body with this kind of pungent smell of people, to contact them, not to mention will like to be held in the arms of such a “heavy” person.

Moreover, babies have a keen sense of smell and hearing, and they are even more sensitive to smells than adults, so smelling these pungent smells up close can be uncomfortable for babies. And close contact with loud people, when they talk will stimulate the baby’s hearing, and even scare the baby, causing the baby to cry.

Therefore, parents should not let these groups of people close to the baby, even if they want to hold the baby. People who are in good health, have experience in holding children, are more suitable for holding babies if they are neatly dressed and smell free. At the same time, for the sake of the baby’s health, parents should also pay attention to not becoming one of the above categories of people.

Finally, parents should know that babies can sleep more peacefully in a crib than if they were constantly cradled to sleep. So even if adults no matter how much they like children, they can not often hold them, put the baby to bed after sleep is better, in the process of taking children parents also need to rest.