When the child has a “congenital” disease, do not deliberately hide, frankly tell positive face will be better

After a family has a child, almost all of its energy is focused on raising that child. Parents all over the world want their children to be healthy and happy, so the children can grow up in peace, the family can be peaceful and beautiful is the biggest pursuit in life.

But how easy it is to have a child, from pregnancy to birth, the mother has to suffer a lot of pain. After the smooth production, from the children cry for food to learn language, parents in which to pay efforts others are seen in the eye. While for the parents, the arrival of the child is happiness, they actually enjoy it.

Of course, the arrival of a healthy child is accompanied by joy, once the child’s body appears what condition, the most worrying is the parents.

In particular, some babies with birth defects have a different fate, destined to grow up in family sorrow and guilt.

If they could, parents would like to bear the physical disability and pain for their children, but what they can do is to take their children to treatment from an early age, and put all their hopes on modern medical technology.

The baby in swaddling clothes does not know what kind of life he is going to face, but cleverly carried around by his parents.

But eventually a child will grow up knowing that his body is different from others and will feel the pain of ill health.

As children grow up day by day, they will have their own ideas, in the face of other people’s special eyes, most children do not want to accept such a life, parents also see the pain in the eyes in the heart.

However, there is pessimism as well as optimism. Even if some children know from childhood that their life is doomed to be more difficult than others, or even need to stay in hospital for a long time, they will not find it particularly difficult to accept, and will comfort the sad family members, who are the “little sun” in the eyes of patients.

To think that a child can have such a positive attitude towards life, it is really rare.

However, growing children, after understanding their own situation can not give up, even more than normal people are full of confidence in life, in addition to the natural optimist, more or can not be separated from their parents from childhood encouraging education, can not be separated from so many years of parents hard instilled optimistic thoughts.

I have ever heard such a story: the protagonist is a little boy, he was born with “congenital” heart disease Z, because it is a genetic disease, so when he was diagnosed with such a disease, his parents were devastated on the spot.

The doctor explained that it was not a terminal illness, that there was a chance of treatment, but that the child would suffer a little while growing up.

Hearing that they could be cured, the mood of the little boy’s parents improved slightly, but when they actually saw the child, the guilt and pain remained for a long time.

Since then, the boy has been nurtured and never allowed to play any strenuous sports or even touch pets such as dogs and cats.

The little boy gradually grew up, found that compared with his peers, it seems that only he can not often go out to play, can only go to the park accompanied by his parents for a walk, and once he went out alone was found, was also educated, in his view is clearly just a small matter, so he went to his parents to ask.

His parents were very open and patiently explained his illness to him, and soon made the boy understand his parents’ actions in the simplest and most straightforward terms.

In addition, his parents told him not to feel any different from normal people, and that he should be careful of any movement that would cause rapid breathing and heart rate.

But the little boy such “quiet” temper, let other ignorant children laugh at him as timid as a mouse, but his parents often in the side to open him, encourage him to find some other things to pass the time, and accompany him to learn to play the piano, chess, and so on, gradually let him find fun from these activities, the little boy felt very happy.

At the end of the story, the boy is still not completely cured of his illness, but his life goes on like everyone else’s. Even if he could not find friends to play mud slides with, but could find friends to play piano and chess with, he was happy every day, never because of his health is not sad and depressed, always calm.

To know that children have physical problems can think of ways to treat, but if at the beginning he gave up himself, always with a negative and pessimistic attitude in the face of life, then for the parents is even worse pain. Therefore, it is especially important for parents to cultivate children’s optimistic attitude towards life from an early age.

Optimistic children can not only bring confidence to people around them to continue living, but also because they have a good attitude and do not fear anything impossible. Such children are positive and cheerful, and will not be easily defeated. Showing such an attitude in the face of adversity is like a ray of light shining in the dark, and such a child will be more popular with everyone.

So how can parents cultivate a positive attitude toward life and make their children optimistic and cheerful? In fact, it is not difficult, the key is to pay attention. First of all, parents are children’s best teachers, so parents’ attitude towards life, to a large extent, also affects children’s attitude towards life.

That is to say, if parents want their children to maintain enthusiasm and expectations for life, they should have a positive attitude towards life and optimistic personality, which will subtly influence the development of their children’s personality.

Secondly, it is also important to create a happy and harmonious family environment for children.

Children who grow up in such an atmosphere are always surrounded by love, knowing that they will always have a home to rely on and a safe haven. Therefore, no matter what happens, we can face it with optimism and confidence, because our parents are always watching over us.

Of course, attitude goes hand in hand with the accumulation of emotions in everyday life. If the child is often depressed, then he will end up with a negative attitude towards life.

Therefore, parents should teach their children to regulate their emotions, try to wash away sadness and melancholy, happy mood can achieve a positive attitude to life.

Finally, no matter what the face of parents can not blindly to suppress the child, everything should be encouraged, let the child to complete the decision and implementation of things independently, can not have too strong desire to control the child. In this way, with the encouragement and support of parents, children will be more optimistic and confident, exercise more and do things will not be afraid of fear.

All in all, parents should know that the quality of life is closely related to the attitude towards life, and the more optimistic and confident people tend to be more successful.

So no matter what the circumstances, it is beneficial for children to develop a positive attitude towards life in the future, while the child is young, parents should take action.