Participate in group activities, first teach children to cooperate, not to fight alone

Saw a story like this. The experimenter got nine children aged 5-7 years old, in groups of three, and divided them into three groups.

Each group had a bottle on the table in front of them, and the bottle had three small balls hanging by a thread, and the mouth of the bottle could only accommodate a small ball to enter and exit freely.

The experimenter let each group of three children, each grab a line, after the start of the game, to see which group of children the fastest to pull the three balls out of the bottle.

After the experiment began, only one group of children succeeded in pulling the three balls out of the bottle. The other two groups failed.

The reason for the failure was that each child in the group wanted to pull their own ball out faster, but because everyone did not know how to cooperate, the three balls were blocked in the bottle and no one could pull them out.

Inquiring into the reason for the success of the group, one of the children in the group told the experimenter that, before starting, this child and the other two children agreed on the order of pulling out the balls, so they succeeded.

This story tells us clearly: to succeed, cooperate first, then compete.

During a casual conversation the other day, a colleague recounted an incident with his own child.

His child is 4 years old and loves to play with other children.

But every time he plays, he is not willing to share his toys with other children, and he likes to grab children’s toys.

Many children are not willing to play with their own children.

This makes parents very distressed.

Later, in order to educate the child, the mother directly handed the child’s toy to another child when the child grabbed another child’s toy.

The child immediately wailed and cried out, and shouted, “That’s my toy.”

The mother pulled the child to the side, and when the child’s crying subsided, she patiently and calmly told the child, “Now do you realize that you will be very sad when your toy is stolen? Then think about it, if you robbed other children’s toys, would other children feel the same way.”

The mother then tells the child, “Give the toy back to the child. If you really like a child’s toy, you have to take the initiative to express it to the child and get permission before you can play with it.”

The child stopped crying, blinked his eyes, and took the toy and returned it to the child.

After this, the child’s behavior of grabbing toys from other children changed significantly.

After the parents praised the child’s progress and received encouragement, the child performed better and better.

People are social beings and cannot live independently, and people always need to interact with each other.

The plasticity of 2-7 years old children is very high, early cultivation of children’s sense of cooperation will help children grow.

1. Encourage your child to participate in more group activities

People can only really grow up in social interaction. Children are no exception.

Collective activities are fertile ground for developing children’s sense of cooperation and habits.

In group activities, children can be exposed to different children. Learning to interact with different types of children helps children’s perception of human independence.

At the same time, if a child is recognized by children of the same age in group activities, it will greatly stimulate social behavior and self-confidence.

When children enjoy the joy of cooperation, they will positively reinforce the sense and habit of positive cooperation.

2. Parents should set an example and teach by example

Parents are the first teachers of their children.

In family life, parents’ words and behaviors will have a subtle influence on their children, and children will imitate their parents’ behaviors.

If the parents have a bad relationship, the children are generally less able to interact with others and will have less willingness to help others.

Therefore, parents should regularly cooperate to do some things at home to facilitate the formation of a model effect for their children.

For example, cleaning up the house together, making bed sheets together, cooking together, etc.

These seemingly small things in life will stimulate the child’s sense of cooperation and help the child to form cooperative behavior habits.

A single thread does not make a thread, a single tree does not make a forest, and many people paddle a big boat.

In today’s increasingly diverse society, many things are difficult to achieve with individual efforts alone, and often require a team effort to achieve success.

If you only know how to accomplish with individual strength, you may get half the result with twice the effort.

Only if you know how to cooperate with others, you can get a greater space for survival.

Only good at cooperation, forming a synergy, taking the strengths of others to make up for their shortcomings, in order to obtain greater performance, so as to experience the happiness is the joy of struggle.