Three and a half year old child Shouting, irritable, love to hit people, what is the reason?

Many parents will find a problem after the child is 2 years old, that is, the child seems to be difficult to control, not only in the words of the conscious rejection of parents, but also learn to lose temper, and like to beat people, so that many parents are confused, do not know where the problem is, cute and gentle baby suddenly into a violent “little monster”.

So what are some behaviors that parents find annoying?

Screaming at the top of your lungs at all times

When babies in this age group scream, it’s not about being angry, it’s not about being unhappy with something, it’s about doing something they’re interested in, it’s about playing a fun game.

In fact, children at this age have just a preliminary understanding of the world, so they need to explore step by step, starting with sound, to discover the role of sound.

It feels like a magical thing in the child’s mind, or that the child needs to use voice in daily life to get Mom and Dad’s attention.

So don’t just tell your baby to “stop screaming” because it’s not going to help, or even because the parent’s reaction will encourage the baby to scream.

So the best way to avoid screaming is to distract your baby by thinking about something that other children are interested in while he or she is screaming. For example, draw pictures, look at a picture book, even listen to children’s songs, and talk to children.

The child suddenly became very irritable

This is the time when mothers suddenly find that their babies often throw tantrums for no reason, and we don’t know why they throw tantrums, or even how to calm them down. In fact, Dads and moms do not have to be too nervous, this is because the baby’s emotional sensitive period is coming.

Everyone has their own living habits, children also have their own behavior habits, no matter the location, object storage order, placed position, items belong to who… He will know in his own way. If you upset his balance as a parent, he won’t be able to express his displeasure smoothly, only throwing tantrums and even having to start over.

The solution to this problem is to either comply with the baby’s wishes, or to divert the baby’s attention by doing something courageous. Do not twist with the baby, otherwise, the situation may become worse and worse, even out of control.

Children like to hit and even bite

At this stage, the baby always likes to hit or bite others, and the parents may wonder why the child suddenly becomes violent. In fact, if you think about it carefully, there is also evidence that children at this time is in the teething stage of a physiological need, so the behavior will like to bite things, even biting people.

As for baby hitting, it is also a common sense behavior of baby, because for children, hitting people to attract others’ attention the most direct way. Especially for the language is not particularly smooth children, in the heart of the baby, they actually do not know the concept of “hitting”.

There is no difference between right or wrong, so in this case, mom and dad should stop, directly tell the baby that beating is not right. It is worth focusing on is that, as parents must not corporal punishment baby let only know that the beat is very painful, so that the baby will have an illusion, mom and dad also beat, it seems that I can beat, but is not conducive to the children to correct the bad habit of beating and scolding.

So with all of that, you know a lot about why babies do this, right? In this stage, parents should not be overly anxious, not to take extreme ways of education, what to do is to teach the baby patiently. Act as a good role model.

First, parents should set an example

Children imitate ability is very strong, so mom and dad in particular should pay attention to their words and deeds, your bad words and deeds let him imitate. If the child is caused by imitating you, the parents must stop losing their temper, and you will be very patient to appease and correct him.

If mom and dad like to pat each other in front of the baby, the baby will think this is a happy game, so in the 2-3 years old who love to imitate the age, he will do it, and it is not easy to correct, so parents must not bad behavior demonstration.

Secondly, there is hands-on behavior, parents should guide children correctly

For both men and women, violent aggression at the age of three and a half can predict the child’s future behavior to a certain extent and have a great impact on his future behavior. This is gender-neutral. How can parents guide their children when they behave this way?

In fact, children have hands-on skills at a very young age, in a few months, you hold him, the baby may inadvertently slap in your face, the baby will feel funny because of the change of your smile on the face, so at this time he will smile. If parents mistakenly repeat your reaction to this matter, there is no doubt that the baby will form such a playful feeling of hitting, increasing the difficulty of future education.

What should we do?

Very simple, patting people into patting balls, patting small hands, patting soft toys, but also to knock their own small quilt. Grab a toy and tap on different objects to attract the child by making different sounds.

In the process of slapping, as parents, we must not let the act of slapping happen on people’s body and face, and do not let the child’s initial exploration is to hit others on the body, let alone parents or classmates.

As a child, you may not think it makes a difference, but as an adult, he will be accustomed to the latest harmonious and unpleasant behavior. Society is not a family, outsiders are not parents, and no one will tolerate your child’s misbehavior, violent behavior, and poor relationships forever.

For the baby’s good behavior, you can give praise and encouragement, if it is wrong behavior, you directly stop, tell the child that this is not wrong, can not do this. The stopping action must be simple and direct when the action is taking place, not when the beating is over. You tell him again, the child will not understand and remember, for these he does not understand, pain and the concept of error is still very vague.

So you just need one action and one sentence, the principle of things don’t need to be too complicated. Over time, he just stopped doing it.

I believe that children under such guidance, will do better!

This stage is very critical, mom and dad to do is to patiently care for the baby and teach, so as to achieve the effect we want.