After the age of 3, children should be allowed to sleep in separate beds. Once the child is overly attached, it will be difficult to be independent

A friend’s child is three and a half years old. Considering that the child has reached the age of kindergarten, I plan to sleep in a separate bed with the child to exercise the baby’s independence. The best way to exercise independence is to cultivate children’s habit of eating and sleeping independently, but on the one hand, I worry that children depend on their mothers too much.

Isn’t it cruel for a mother to rush her child into a separate bed without giving her enough love and comfort?

In fact, this is the problem most treasure mothers encounter, is understandable, but separate bed sleeping is an inevitable process.

Why?

First, consider safety.

When a child’s parents sleep together, it can actually increase the safety risk. Compared to young children, parents are a big deal. When the adult arms and legs, once pressed on the baby, the weight for the child is like a heavy weight, it is easy to hurt.

Infants, especially premature infants, will be hurt more, and even cause harm to life. Moreover, parents with children know that lack of sleep is often a thing, if so in the sleep, accidentally caused clothing to block the child’s nose and mouth, resulting in children in the ability to save themselves, suffocated to death, it is not regret can be redeemed.

Sleeping in separate beds is exactly the best behavior for children’s safety. In addition, sleeping in the same bed with children is bound to be crowded. Cautious parents are afraid to sleep, often because of a long time of action, resulting in physical discomfort, but the children and parents can not sleep well, making everyone’s mental state is not good.

Secondly, children who can not sleep independently can not adapt to the unfamiliar environment very well, and the poor ability to adapt to the baby, often will be very dependent, unable to communicate with children of the same age to play, and even refuse to communicate with others, in short, easy to produce inferiority complex, or even autism.

Thirdly, as children grow up, their sexual consciousness begins to sprout gradually, and their sleep will not be as heavy as that of infants. They may wake up when they move a little bigger. So parents who don’t sleep in separate beds from their children and occasionally want to live as a couple are like thieves, afraid that their children will wake up.

And 6-7 children have a preliminary understanding of gender, if this time has not been separated from their parents sleep, during this period is not correct guidance, it may lead to the occurrence of serious dependence on parents. That is what we usually say “father” and “mother” complex, instead of this, it is better to direct the children to separate bed early.

To sum up, we can know the inevitability of sleeping in separate beds with children. So how to make children calmly accept the fact of sleeping independently when it is better to separate beds with children?

Generally speaking, parents should try to separate beds after the children are 3 years old. If some children’s adaptability is not particularly good, repeated attempts are unsuccessful. This is the time to test parents’ patience, but it is inevitable to implement separate beds.

In theory, the older a child is, the harder it is to sleep in a separate bed from Mum and dad until the age of 7.8. Because it is time for children to have their own independent thoughts, generally is not easy to be persuaded, so sometimes we encourage parents to prepare a crib for the baby when it is just born and put it next to their own big bed.

In this way, mothers can not only take good care of the baby, but also will not affect their own rest, more can avoid the occurrence of danger, and from a young age can cultivate children’s awareness of sleeping in separate beds.

If we already share a bed, we should also be prepared to sleep in separate beds at the age of three, as soon as the number of night milk decreases. Separate beds can be on the agenda, try to let the child fall asleep on their own, guide the child to sleep on their own in the small bed. At the beginning of the time is not too long, you can take a nap, or when the child is in a good mood, do not be too anxious, causing the child discomfort, increase the difficulty of sleeping in separate beds later.

Do the following to make it easier for children to accept separate beds:

First, let children according to their own wishes and preferences to arrange their own bed, to choose with their favorite bed and toys, there are like things, sleep will be relatively easier. Making your child feel involved will increase his acceptance of sleeping in separate beds.

Second, before the separation of the bed, parents should give their children a reward promise, after the success of the separation of the bed, parents remember to fulfill this promise in time, do not let the child empty joy. Even if the promised reward is very small, it will still leave a deep impression in the baby’s mind, and it will be of great help to sleep independently in the future.

Third, after the baby sleeps independently, when the mother gets up in the morning, she should give a big hug and praise, affirming the child’s progress, which is also a way to make the child more excellent.

Sleeping in separate beds is not that difficult and parents don’t have to force their children to do it. As long as parents find the right way, spend more time preparing, communicate with their children in a timely manner, understand the voice in the heart of the child, so that the child gradually adapt to the separate bed sleep will be very smooth and loving, will not appear because the separate bed sleep let the child cry heaven and earth.