Children who are very independent may grow up to be cold and ruthless even though they are very successful

You think you haven’t grown up yet, but in fact others have long since stopped treating you as a child.

Every parent knows to nurture their child’s independence, and because the child will eventually face life alone, there is the belief that the more independent the child is, the better.

However, many people believe that a child’s independence and the emotional connection between the child and the parents are incompatible. The deeper the latter, the stronger the “dependency,” which is the opposite of independence.

Therefore, parents who care deeply about their child’s independence may also unintentionally express their aversion to dependence.

When a child shows a desire for love, attention, and support, the parent will show a lack of empathy and criticism.

At the same time, such parents disapprove of the child’s expression of feelings and treat the crying child with contempt. As a result of the frequent condemnation and contempt, the child eventually learns to suppress and hide his or her feelings and be a good, obedient child.

Such children may grow up to be very capable and easily self-reliant, but they are usually callous and heartless.

Even if they are in the middle of the crowd, they always feel isolated and unloved.

Such a person tends to find someone who loves him in a marriage relationship, even if he does not need the care of others at all. This is a way to make up for what was once lacking.

Even though he may love the other person very much, he will not show it easily.

These may seem strong and independent, but they are actually very fragile.

Without the support of love, no emotion or ability can be effective.

Another cause of children who grow up to be very independent but cold and uncaring is the loss of a parent in childhood; these children do not receive the attentive care of another parent but have to continuously take care of themselves all the time.

This behavior of the child may make the parents feel relieved that the child has grown up and matured ahead of time.

However, this is not a natural progression; it is a compulsive behavior caused by absence.

No one wants to grow up at the age of still being a child.

In other words, the difficulties faced by single parents are not just financial; the bigger problem is that it is easy to turn parenting into nurturing parenting, from giving to taking.

Some parents before the divorce think about compensating their children more and giving them more love after the divorce.

The reality of the situation can easily cause them to quickly fall short of this compensation, and there can even be a role reversal, where the child needs to take care of the parent.

In this case, although material things cannot solve all the problems, it is easier to avoid many of them if you are better off financially.

That is why single parents in particular need a reliable and stable financial source.

Therefore, it is important to take into account the child’s need to be “dependent” on the parents while developing the child’s independence.

The relationship between the two is that of a spear and a shield, a striker and a defender, neither of which should be missing.