Treat your child with tolerance, is also to give your child a way to live

As I visit my relatives every day during the New Year, I see a lot of strange things.

Partner’s niece, more than thirty years old, not yet married. On the fourth day of the first month of our family to eat the New Year’s Eve dinner, their home is closer to my home, niece and sister-in-law arrived very early.

We sat and chatted together, and my sister-in-law suddenly said, “Don’t make too many dishes, we can’t eat much during the New Year holidays.” The niece also followed and said, “Yes, make more vegetables, I like to eat.”

Sister-in-law suddenly said, you still say, that child dish, there are a bunch of there. Spent more than 30 yuan, not even finished eating, you fool, spend so much money.

The niece was not depressed, but still smiled and promised her mother, “Oh, the New Year’s holiday, more is better than less.”

The sister-in-law chattered a lot, meaning that the niece should know how to save, do not know how hard it is to earn money, etc.. This time, the niece simply collapsed face.

The sister-in-law is a frugal person, the niece is also kind, think more than buy a thirty-odd vegetables, better than no food to eat.

The conflict between the two sides is that one feels wasted, one feels that thirty is not much. As an adult, from her niece’s point of view, she expects to be responsible for her actions. The sister-in-law, on the other hand, has been reprimanding and preventing her niece’s growth.

The niece has been silently using her own rebellion to accuse her mother: I am grown up, you can stop controlling me like this!

As far as I am concerned, my niece, who is already thirty years old, is completely capable of making her own decisions. It may not be a big deal to use an extra thirty dollars or so.

I’ve heard that my niece is a bit depressed, and now it seems that it’s hard not to be depressed when you’re in this environment for a long time.