Before the age of 12, parents grasp these three important stages of their child’s development, and he will become more and more excellent in the future

There are boundaries between people, even biological parents, when the child grows up, also have to pay attention to and grasp this line.

Especially for the children of the opposite sex, when he grows up to a certain age, not only should pay attention to the way to get along, but also to arrange bed as soon as possible, which is not only for the sake of the child’s health, let him develop a confident, strong character, but also for the future so that he has a normal family life, in a healthy environment to grow up smoothly.

After marriage, she had a son. Because of the discordant character with her husband, she was deeply unhappy in her marriage. When her son was 5 years old, she had to divorce him and brought up her son alone.

Influenced by his parents’ feelings, his son has been timid since childhood and is particularly afraid of the dark. He even has to turn on the light at night to sleep, otherwise he will not fall asleep all night, which makes Susan especially guilty.

To help her son, she moved into his room and slept with him for several years.

One night in the middle of the night, Susan heard the sound of running water in the bathroom. She quickly got up and saw that her son was secretly cleaning his underwear.

In the face of his mother’s inquiry, the son said in a shy whisper, “I seem to have accidentally enuresis.” Susan was shocked and understood the reason.

She knew that it would be very inappropriate for her son, now that he had grown into a young man of 13 and had begun to develop normal physiological responses, not to be able to sleep with his mother.

When children grow up, they sleep in separate beds from their parents.

What are the effects on children if they are too late to separate their beds?

1. Relying too much on your parents

It is understandable that children are too young to sleep alone and need the company of their parents.

However, as the age slowly grows, if they still ask someone to accompany them, it shows that the child has a strong dependence, from the internal resistance to independence, unwilling to grow up on their own, whether it is for the future study and school, or in the future to work, there are great disadvantages, but also affect the child’s character and future.

Therefore, when the child is about 3 years old, experts suggest to sleep in separate rooms with the child. As long as you stick to it, you will soon be able to adapt to it.

2, easy to precocious

Children from 7 to 8 years old, with the rapid development, physical hormones are awakened, preliminary with sexual consciousness.

Sleeping with parents often leads to rapid growth of hormones, which can lead to premature puberty.

Precocious precocious children, not only to their physical development and health, but also unintentional learning and life, have an impact on the future of life.

Therefore, for the children of the opposite sex, parents should arrange another room as soon as possible, so that the children sleep separately from them.

3. You don’t understand basic physiology

Often sleep with parents of children, the lack of gender consciousness in the mind, the awareness of sex is very vague, some only know is their parents, do not know that parents also have gender.

At this age, if you still sleep with your parents, it is easy to be curious about the body of the opposite sex, and may make mistakes due to adverse reactions, thus damaging your own health.

Therefore, parents in peacetime to instill physiological health knowledge to their children, let him know that men and women are different.

4. Influence their future love and marriage orientation

Some children have been with their parents for a long time, because they are accustomed to the body of the opposite sex, they no longer have a mystery to the opposite sex, leading to the existence of sexual orientation disorders.

They do not trust their other half, have no confidence in family life, often linger in the door of marriage for a long time, known as “marriage phobia”, some will have a “homosexual” tendency, to their parents extremely regret and disappointment.

Therefore, it is very necessary for young men and women to find the right person at the right time and get married smoothly.

What should parents do when sleeping apart from their children?

1. Pay attention to soothing slowly

Because of the long-term habit of being accompanied by someone, once a child to sleep alone, it is inevitable to produce resistance psychology, crying, unwilling to sleep and other phenomena.

In this case, parents do not easily compromise, also do not rush, to do a good job to appease the work, guide and tell the child such a fact: grow up to sleep in their own room, every child is doing so… Let him accept this in his heart, and he will obey his parents’ arrangement.

2. Decorate the room with your child

After giving the child a separate room, parents should not be left in charge when it comes to layout. In order to let the child feel warm and cordial, you can invite the child to participate in, fully listen to his opinions, and then according to their wishes and preferences to decorate.

Let the child love their own room, can fall asleep quickly.

3. Pay attention to privacy protection

When children grow up, they generally have their own ideas and do not like to reveal them to others, especially after entering adolescence, they like to write their wishes in a diary, which becomes the deepest privacy of their hearts.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to the protection of privacy, do not enter the children’s room casually, reflect the respect for them, the children will return the parents more love.

Although they are a loving family, they are, after all, independent individuals with their own ideas and lives, which is a clear line.

Once this boundary is ignored, whether it is for the child’s health, or the future life, it may be seriously affected, so in the critical period of children’s growth, parents should always pay attention to this boundary, which is a conscientious attitude towards children.