Dad don’t just silently pay for the child, a father to express love, but also to pay action

It is the mother who gives birth and raises the child, and the first person the child comes into contact with in the world is also the mother, so we always praise the greatness of maternal love. In fact, in the traditional sense of some countries, father is the existence of heaven, is the pillar of the family, is the warrior to solve the crisis, even is the source of the family economy.

Of course, in today’s progressive and egalitarian society, women hold up half the sky. However, in family life, especially in the process of children’s growth and education, the role of the father is extremely important, why?

Because there is a man in the heart of every child, in this society of equality between men and women, women belong to the vulnerable group compared with men, especially in the aspect of physical strength, girls need their father to give enough sense of security. And father for boys, more important, because this little boy, one day will become a man, this growing process, as a father is definitely not or lack of.

Mother is gentle, delicate, a mother’s love is like water, slowly flowing, care for the growth of children: but father’s love is bold, open, even unrestrained; It is the two complementary different love, perfect combination, will better care for children.

How can you be a good dad?

1. Don’t be an invisible dad

While dads may be able to step into their roles later than moms, that’s no excuse for not spending time with their kids outside of work. No matter how busy he is, he always finds time to play with his children. Infants also need a father’s company, from the most basic conversation of gibberiness to the simple game of fiddling with beads to exercise their fingers. As children grow up, they will regard father as the first choice to play together, increasing the intimacy between father and child.

Two, take children to participate in outdoor activities

Children with their mothers for a long time will become introverted and timid, afraid to speak loudly, and even do not know how to get along with other children. So as a dad, spend more time with your kids by going out hiking, rowing, or even running together. Father’s company will make the child’s personality become cheerful, and father’s perseverance, brave spirit, will also greatly affect the child. Therefore, children can learn stronger and more optimistic spirit from their fathers than from their mothers.

Three, as an example, let the child fall in love with doing housework

Take children to do housework together, there is a saying that a man who does housework is attractive, and a man who can cook is more handsome. Dad take the initiative to undertake housework, do not do the hand of the shopkeeper, is also a manifestation of love home and love wife. Children in this family atmosphere, will also feel full of love, and the heart full of love, certainly is kind and optimistic, can also let children develop a good quality of hard work.

Fourth, take an active part in children’s learning

Relative to the mother’s trivial, father is relatively forthright, tolerance is high, in the child’s learning process, will be less than a lot of percussion accusations. More positive encouragement, to positive communication, to tell children why to study hard, to point out mistakes, rewards and punishments, rather than blindly to take the fight against education, violent punishment.

Fifth, when getting along with children, be a good father with both IQ and EQ online

Nietzsche said that when you look into an abyss, the abyss looks into you.

When you look at your child with a smile on your face, the child will also be happy to face you, to open their heart to you, open heart is the best education.

A crosstalk master, talking on the stage, the tongue is eloquent, when facing the child, the most afraid is the child’s silence.

If the father’s majesty plays to the extreme, let the child close the heart door, refuse to communicate, this is exactly the most terrible. Therefore, face the child with a smile, the general principle remains unchanged, humorous communication method may be more suitable for the relationship between father and child.

Six, cultivate children’s spirit of dedication

Use every available moment to do something meaningful. The world will perceive you. Your children will perceive you and be deeply affected by it. For example: to organize some books and clothes, with the children one by one into the community donation box, let the children know how happy it is to help others in their own way.

Fathers play a greater role than mothers in the initial development of language and movement.

Father’s company can make children’s emotional control and physical coordination better, so we should change ourselves, increase the status of father in family life, and better get along with children. The invisible father should also change himself and actively participate in the growth of the child. The best model of family relationship is that the whole family is in the best model of education is that none of the three values can be absent, namely: parents and children.