Before the age of 12, parents grasp these three important stages of their child’s development, and he will become more and more excellent in the future

Every parent wants their child to be polite, normal and not a troubled teenager. But the wish is good, the reality is always cruel, and unfortunately some children become what their parents call troubled teenagers.

After work, July is ready to go green by bike. After taking the bike, he sees three junior high school students are also ready to ride bicycles. But the way they handled it was a bit rough. One of the boys kept kicking the stump, which unlocked the car when the sensor on it failed, and the three men got hold of the car in this way and rode away.

July was shocked when she saw this. All she could think was, “What are the parents of these children doing? Isn’t that too bad?” But come to think of it, maybe their parents didn’t know their kids were out there like this either.

Raising a child is far from being so simple. It is too late for parents to miss these important ages if they become adults and become good children.

The first stage: Before the age of three.

“Three years old”, some parents will think that their children are too young to know anything, until they grow up to teach.

In fact, before the child is one year old, he has a certain awareness of the sense of security. When the unfamiliar people hold him, he will cry and refuse, which is a manifestation of self-protection.

Without parents around until the first year of life, children grow up to be insecure.

Professor Susan once expressed such an opinion: Before the age of three, no matter how hard it is, children should be taken with them, and it is important to give them positive attention and response.

Most of the children born after 1980 and 1990 are left-behind children. Their parents work outside and their grandparents take care of their children. When children grow up, they will find that they are not obedient, especially when they enter adolescence.

In this case, parents will subconsciously try to use their status to bully their children, but it often backfires. As parents, it seems that they have an innate right to discipline their children.

What is neglected is that the discipline of children never relies on identity suppression, but on psychological attraction, which is the source of children’s willingness to listen to parents’ discipline.

If parents miss the attachment stage before the age of three, discipline can be the hardest part.

The second stage: three to six years old.

“At the age of seven,” personality is often an important factor in determining success or failure.

When Susan was a guest at the Round Table School, she said, Parents s nagging and words are gold before the age of six, but trash after the age of 12.

From the age of three to six is the golden period of character development, which requires parents to focus on cultivating good qualities and habits in children.

Often listen to the mother said: other people’s children in the first grade before can recite how many ancient poems, know how many words, will count within the number of arithmetic…… But those slim margins will soon be gone.

Only good quality and habits can affect people’s life. This habit can be reading for half an hour every day, a fixed amount of exercise every day, and cultivate children’s good habits of self-discipline and concentration.

The third stage: six to twelve years old.

At this age, children can distinguish between good and bad, and this is the best time to establish the right values.

There is a saying online that looks like a joke, but is actually true: “A child’s test score determines the level of family harmony.”

Parents are easy to put too much emphasis on the results, I have a father is like this, the child is in first grade, there is a math test 96 points, dad has a kind of children can not go to college anxiety.

Usually the tone of education children will inevitably heavy, but he did not know that this anxiety is easy to affect the child.

Some parents like to use percussion education, think the more percussion children, the more successful they will be. Actually no, sometimes the more the blow, the more the child will feel inferior.

Although I understand that parents will be angry to see their children’s grades slip at the moment, but also have to admit that everyone’s personality characteristics are not the same, good at the major is not the same, can not use the grades to generalize, which may backfire.

Every parent doesn’t want their child to be a troubled teenager, but parents also need to learn how to educate their children properly.

Children are born a piece of white paper, depends on how their parents draw.

Every behavior of children can reflect the results of their parents’ education. Therefore, parents should grasp these stages of their children’s life to make their children more and more excellent.