A mother of a child asked a wise man, “What should I do if my child always likes to eat candy?”
Wise man: “Just don’t let him eat it.”
Mother: “He always cries and screams when he is not allowed to eat.”
Wise man: “Come back to me in a month.”
One month later, the mother came as promised: “What should I do if my child always likes to eat candy?” Asking the same question as last time.
Wise man: “Tell him he can’t eat candy because a month ago I loved candy too.”
This story tells people, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, the power of example is great, and actions speak louder than words . Any beautiful words pale in comparison to actions.”
Story Continued.
Mother: “What about the child who loves candy?”
Wise man: “What about who?” The meaning is clear: Whose business is it?
Mother: “It’s my business. If I don’t let my child eat it, she cries and cries and cries and cries.
So it is: “If you don’t let the child, the child cries and fusses, and you are very upset, so you obey the child’s request and let him eat the candy. And the child? If you don’t let him eat, he cries and fusses again so that he can eat the candy.”
So, a fixed pattern is formed in the child’s mind: “Crying and fussing is a way to achieve your wishes. Once you can’t beat the request, not as much as you want, you cry and scream again to make the parents give in. The situation is this situation, the reasoning is this reasoning.”
The child’s mother: “Then what should I do?”
The wise man: “First give the child to explain the dangers of eating candy, then insist that the child does not eat, even if they cry and fuss again, must hold on. In a relatively safe environment, quietly watch the child, let the child distressed. This way the child understands that one eating sugar is for the harm. Two, even if you cry again will not help, no longer top things, instead of crying, what to do what to do.”
“Later, the child slowly understands that distress will not achieve their purpose, only really need to fight, the parents will agree.”
To sum up: “Good habits are cultivated, bad habits are spoiled. Therefore, the family environment, the quality of parents determine the growth of the child, determine the future of the child.”
