Is a child’s separation anxiety really so terrible? Check out this smart mom

James’ mother was a full-time parent for two years, and during that time, she learned a lot about parenting.

It is true that every mother can be a parenting expert. Today, let me share some parenting lessons with you.

Let’s start recently. This year, James’s mother sent James to nursery school to get a feel for the teachers and the kids.

Surprisingly, James was fine on the first day, but for the next week, James would say to his mother before bed and after waking up, “Mom, I don’t want to go to kindergarten. The next day, he would get up and say, “I’m going to miss my mom,” while holding back tears.

Generally at this time but who have a little temper of parents, will certainly feel: now children how are not strong? They both don’t like going to school.

Wait a minute, parents might as well put themselves in the shoes of think: if they come alone to a strange environment, is not the heart full of panic? Because we don’t know what will happen in a strange environment and how to deal with it.

Similarly, kindergarten is only the “first time” for children to step out of the house, and their inner anxiety about separation and fear of the unknown. In fact, parents can understand, in fact, they just love their parents, in their world, with mom and dad will be very reassuring.

If your parents are in this situation, try these ways to get rid of your child’s separation anxiety:

Communicate with your children in advance

In fact, when they decided to send James to nursery school, James’ mother told James about the flu shot, and often took James by the kindergarten to see how the kindergartner spent his day.

After all, practice is the only test of truth, so that he can more intuitively understand the way things are.

02. It is possible to make appropriate brief separations

This is the most critical point for children to get rid of separation anxiety, before the child goes to kindergarten, parents can give him a class, pure independent class.

The difference with kindergarten is that this pure independence only allows children and parents to separate from each other for two hours, which is also a good preparation for kindergarten.

One or two years ago, when James’ mother was about to clock in for work, she told James six months in advance: “Mom is going to work later, so that you can play with grandma, and mom will come back to you after work!” James also had a good time getting over his separation anxiety with his mother.

Find out why your child is afraid

This is the best way to solve the current problem. Parents need to know why their children are afraid of school. They can ask their children when they go to bed at night: What do you think makes you uncomfortable in kindergarten?

Of course, it takes two or three days to ask this question. The child may say that when he is sleeping at school, the teacher will suddenly close the window, which makes him feel dark and afraid.

After finding the reason, it is necessary for parents to communicate with the kindergarten teacher. Is it OK to tell the children every time they pull the curtain: it is bedtime and the teacher is going to pull the curtain?

Read more picture books to create more parent-child time

Parent-child reading time is also very important, this habit can not only help children develop a good habit of reading, but also promote mutual trust.

In addition, during this parent-child time, parents can specially select picture books about easing separation anxiety, such as “I want to go to Kindergarten” and “School Teacher Mom”. They know that every child has to go to school when they grow up, and they know that in addition to the mother at home, the mother teacher at school is also a person they can trust.

Parents need to know that separation anxiety is not something to be afraid of; it’s just a part of a child’s physical and mental development. At the same time, parents need to understand on the way to the growth of children, do not be afraid of parenting problems, you can accompany more, and more communication with children, perhaps this is the best secret with children.